Updates and Some Mental Health Statistics
Yay, I'm excited to say that my first two #HeadsUp50 collages (see below) are available via my online shop and so far I'm finding the process of creating these collages really cathartic and stimulating both from an artistic point of view but also it feels really good to be able to 'give voice' to some of what is on my heart from a visual perspective.
I've been feeling pretty good (see here for a background) and would say that so far, I'm coping well and not noticing any particular changes to my mood. Since the topic of mental health is very much on my mind as I'm actively working on my #HeadsUp50Project I would say that there have been a couple of occasions where a memory has popped into my mind and it's floored me, making me think that under the surface there is quite a lot buried and probably needs to have the light of the day shine on it at some point.
As I'm reading and researching more on the topic of depression and mental health, I came across the fact below (UK based research):
This is a big wake up call I think for society and our young people. This statistic shows just how much our children are struggling and that the problem is growing. Unfortunately, the majority of young people don't seem to be able to access the support they need due to NHS cuts etc. In addition, a new survey tells us that more than a third of young people have self-harmed and as we all know, cyberbullying seems out of control.
Listen, I don't have the answers to this scary reality but all I can offer is a little bit of hope from what I know:
- The obvious but love your kids. Accept them for who they are and don't dwell on how you would like them to be.
- Talk to them openly about your challenges, difficulties and how you were when you were their age.
- Help them to look after themselves and mirror to them how to do this. If you struggle with this, learn some strategies yourself.
- Don't be afraid to say that you don't have all the answers but that you'll be there to help them discover their way through, bit by bit.
- Let them know that this isn't their fault - there is so much guilt and shame with mental health.
- If you are struggling to cope as a parent with a child who suffering, don't forget your own needs and seek professional help if you find yourself struggling.
- Remove devices from their rooms whenever and wherever possible. Encourage a healthy sleep routine.
- Encourage your children to invite their friends over and try to get to know them.
- Keep the line of communication with your spouse/partner open and talk often.
- Know your family's boundaries and what is and isn't acceptable behaviour for your children.
- Sometimes you don't have to say or do anything, just be with them. Watch a dvd together, go for a walk, make a meal together, go out for a drive or start a hobby together.
- Remember, we all make mistakes, don't be afraid to admit that you don't always get it right but that you're trying and that you too are learning along the way.
- Give your child the gift of self-expression. If you can encourage your child to let out some of their feelings through art, journaling, poetry, writing or music etc. it will be a step in the right direction and give them a really worthwhile and safe way to 'let it out'.
So, that's it from me and I do hope you have a wonderful weekend and Mother's Day if you live in the UK.
Much love and thank you for being here...