#Perfectionism in Art and Life - #letgo

Perfectionism and The Pressure To Be Perfect 

Don’t let perfectionism become an excuse for never getting started.
— Marilu Henner
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We all know it - perfectionism gets in the way of living our best life. 

The last few days I've been struggling.  I've created two paintings and hated both. Well, that's not strictly true; I liked them at one point and then I've hit a point of not thinking they were good enough and then ruined them by working them too much. Do you know that feeling?  

Even now as I'm typing this, I have a strong feeling to clarify the paintings here - yes, I know the eyes weren't quite right, yes, I know the arms and hands weren't in proportion but the thing is, I felt my heart. soaring. with. delight - that is until #selftalk decided that they were no good!  Isn't that sad?

When you strip it all away, this anxiety is all based on unworthiness. We tell ourselves, 'Just a little more effort is all it'll take' or, 'If I just get this right, I will be _____ (fill in the blank). We've got to stop this friends and I'm going to be looking at this topic in my upcoming project starting in March - Heads Up.  

Perfectionism is the modern addiction, says Seth Godin.  He also goes on to say:

Seeking a perfect sphere might be a hobby, but if it’s not giving you joy, it’s a lousy way to live. It’s an addiction, not a useful tool.
— Seth Godin

 

I take comfort from the words above and these:

I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.
— Philippians 4:13
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Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life.
Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.
— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

So, my message today is not to rely on your own strength but God's.  He knit you in the womb.  He knows how many hairs are on your head.  He strung the stars together in the sky.  He wants you to live your life with joy, to slow down, to enjoy the people He has included in your life and for you to hand over all your concerns to Him.  So, change isn't easy but I'm going to #letgo with His unending grace and help - will you join me?

Much love,

Jane x