Challenging times come to us all and right now, we are certainly in one (on a few levels). Below is a photo of my father-in-law, aka Paps and our youngest son Benjamin playing his clarinet. This photo was taken on Mother's Day; just a couple of weeks ago and yet the deterioration in Paps is now marked and we've been told that he is terminal.
.... death is the destiny of every man; the living should take this to heart.- Ecclesiastes 7:2 NIV
It's hard to put into words how I feel but I know that I have to stay strong for my husband, our boys and of course Robert's Mum. There's great responsibility here and I know I want more than anything to be present and available for everyone whilst taking care of my needs when I can so that I have the resilience or as best I can.
I've thought and thought about how the boys (and all of us) could celebrate their grandad's life in a real and tangible way and the idea of creating a 'Treasure Box/Album' came to me - (actually the word 'treasure' was suggested by my good friend Lisa who has done something similar).
We're envisaging recording some video 'interviews', asking lots of (mostly) light-hearted questions and of course snapping photos.
So, I'm summing up strength for a project that I could never have imagined and it feels scary, poignant and yet beautiful - one of the most important yet. I say 'beautiful' because in a way, it is such a gift to be able to celebrate his life whilst he's here, with us.
I'd really love to know if you have ever created something similar and if so, how did you go about it, what did you include and how did your children find the process?