Do you ever find yourself feeling ruled by your 'to do' list? Do you feel as if you're being dragged through your day, struggling to keep up with so many obligations, other people to take care of, tasks and thoughts crowding your head, that somehow YOU never feel nurtured? Lastly, do you sometimes get irritated with your nearest and dearest and then feel desperately sorry and guilty? Yes, I know - I've been there too...
I was listening to Sally Clarkson and Kristen Kill on their podcast yesterday and their discussion came around to this very topic and it reminded me of how I used to feel (and truth be told, sometimes I still do on a particularly challenging day...) before I paid attention to the needs, desires and whispers of my heart.
Sally went on to say, that you can't deny your 'emotional and physical' needs consistently as sooner or later, you'll end up being in pieces. She states: 'no-one can take care of your happiness, only you' - isn't that the truth? Sally talks about 'building rhythms into our lives' for daily nurture time and that life is not about being 'dragged across the finish line' but rather to embrace life. Sally shares that the '... best gift you can give your child [husband, parent, work colleague etc] is the gift of being a content and happy person'.
Once upon a time, I used to suffer crippling depression and whilst the 'outside world' couldn't have guessed, my family certainly could. As I started to feel better, I did a number of things but the thing I've come back to, is endeavouring to listen to what my heart needs as best as I can.
Enter art! Art fills me up and reminds me of who I am. It helps still my mind from its incessant chatter, encourages me to 'see' beyond myself and teaches me that I'm abundantly loved by God.
So, it's your turn dearest...
- What stirs your heart? What are those whispers you are trying to ignore?
- How can you practically tend that weary heart of yours?
- Are you an introvert or extravert? Are you in desperate need of some space to 'be' or a favourite friend to enjoy a cup of tea and a chat with?
- If picking up brushes and dipping in paint does that for you, please do this for yourself. If it's gardening, sewing, having a vintage tea party with friends - whatever it is, take this time and do it regularly.
- Journal what comes up for you and then take some small action towards a positive change.
If what I've shared resonates, you have some tips/suggestions or just want to share your heart, please leave a comment below.